Tip for all colors (but especially Yellows): Your White friend doesn’t hate you!!!

Me and Jake in 2017, taking part in Cotopaxi’s Questival event.

White personality people are truly a treasure chest. Absolute wealths of knowledge and insights, but they bury themselves deep and prefer to be alone.

My very White friend has a very Yellow father. In high school his dad once confronted him, “Son, you’ve spent the last 3 weekends home alone. Make some dang plans this weekend!” Jake said “Okay Dad,” and in typical White fashion proceeded to have no plans with friends that weekend. His dad asked, “Jake! I thought you were going to make plans this weekend!” “Dad. I did, and do you know how hard it was make plans to be home this weekend? Ugh so many people tried to make plans with me and I had to work so hard to just be home tonight.”

Personally, my Yellow brain fails to compute.

But we were laughing about that conversation a couple weeks back and Jake told us, “Yeah, I remember that. I was just feeling so burnt out from previous social interaction that I needed a recharge.”

Suddenly it all made sense! Here I had thought that Jake hated the friend group! We went from spending every day in the summer and every weekend in the school year as a group for almost a year, to suddenly Jake vanishing from the friend group.

Nope, he didn’t hate us. Loved us all along. Just needed some alone time to recharge.

Let your White personality friends have their space. Checking in on them via text is their most preferred way of communicating. If you’re lucky and exercise gentle listening, they might even open up to you! But try to call them or “just drop by to say hi” like the heathens do, and you may as well find the nearest water board and just torture them instead. At least then they’re blindfolded and don’t have to see anyone.

Jokes aside, I cannot reiterate it enough: Let Whites have their downtime and always gently and warmly accept them back into the circle when they’re ready to take part in socializing again.